Self-discipline: we all know that we need it, but how many of us really have it? Once a year we all muster up some self-discipline to commit a resolution for 1-6 weeks, but not many people can keep up these standards year-round. If self-discipline is something that we can recognize as being good for us, why do so few actually practice self-discipline on a regular basis? I believe it is because self-discipline is hard and it takes a lot of work, and not every person is willing to take on that extra effort. 

One thing that can distinguish leaders from followers is self-discipline. In the workplace, self-discipline is shown through completing projects on time or early, being self-motivated, putting in extra work, and pushing yourself beyond what is expected of you. Many of the things that make a leader stand out are rooted in self-discipline and personal standards. When candidates are considered for promotions, things like motivation and self-drive  can set one candidate apart from another.

Self-discipline is incredibly important, but it is not typically something that is innate in people. For most self-disciplined people there is a process of honing that skill and developing the necessary motivation. So how do we help our children (and let’s be honest, us too) learn this skill? An important first step is to understand your weaknesses. This will help you understand how to combat these weaknesses. If you know that procrastination is a weakness of yours, set earlier deadlines for yourself so you are always ahead of schedule rather than behind. If you are easily tempted by social outings and opportunities, make sure to work ahead so you have breathing room if an opportunity comes up. Another thing to do is to create habits and daily practices to get yourself into a routine. Creating this behavior will establish learned discipline that will get easier the more you practice. 

Once you begin to successfully form habits and build your self-motivation, give yourself small rewards for hitting milestones of making accomplishments. This positive reinforcement can incentivize you to keep moving forward and building your self-discipline. The last piece of advice I can give you is to forgive yourself for small missteps in your plan. No one can be incredibly driven and motivated every single day. So, give yourself permission to have some off days. Your work will still contribute to future success, and taking breaks is healthy.

-       Bria